I am not Hosea and my wife is not a prostitute.

In the Old Testament there is a book called Hosea.  Hosea was told by God to marry a prostitute. He obeyed God.  Hosea and his wife had 3 children together.  It was just a matter of time that his wife wanted back in her old lifestyle.  Hosea was heart broken and shamed through this abandonment.  More time passed and God told Hosea to find his wife and reconcile their marriage.  By this time his wife had reached the bottom and had to be purchased of the slave block.

The lesson that we are to learn from this is how great God’s love is for us.  There are references all over  the Bible about how the children of Israel “went whoring after other Gods.”  We are to realize that we too have turned our backs on God, rejecting His love, yet He waits for our return. The time away from God and refusing his love always ends up with us paying a price for our unfaithfulness, while we are pursuing our lusts. How long does it take for you to recover from knowing you have disappointed God?

A man shared in an AA meeting how ashamed he was that he had a “slip”.  He got drunk a few times after being sober for 10 years and it took him 2 years to get over the shame.  Alcohol is the seductress that many of us are confronted with.  He told of how he went to a “Round Up” which is a very large meeting and they had everyone stand.  The longest to the shortest time of sobriety was called out and people sat when they heard their time.  He said he knew people there and they knew how long he had been sober.  Then his time passed, people stared at him and after quite some time, they called out 1 day, and he was able to sit.  To me that exercise is very shaming, I guess they had something else in mind.

My wife and I both know that if we were to have sexual relationships with someone else, that our relationship would be irreparably damaged. This time of separation is really a dangerous time, there are temptations everywhere and a seemingly sliding scale of morality heightens the danger.  There are those who give really bad advice.  Like, “you have your needs, get them met, but make sure she knows that is all you’re doing.  My AA sponsor says, “you have to keep from thinking about your wife, consider it over, but don’t get involved with another woman”.

Gods example for rejected love is to remain faithful.  I will know when the time is here to move on, but for now I will remain faithful and continue to work on the areas of my life that need work.

The Love Dare book speaks briefly about how our marriages can be a battlefield and our spouse become our enemy.  Jesus says we are to love our enemies, do good to those that hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who mistreat you.  We are to be known by our love, people should know we are disciples of Christ by our love for one another.  What is great about this is we are to simply release the love God has placed in our heart.

This book is not the answer to every difficulty there is in relationships.  If we can learn to love and act the way outlined in this book, it would be great.  Some of us have addictions that need to be dealt with on a daily basis, some of us need to get our attention back to where it belongs. We need to stop listening to people who are anti-marriage, anti-reconciliation, those whose first word of advice is to divorce the blankety blank!