I am twice divorced. When I started this blog I was 11 months into a very serious examination of my life “issues”. This has been the most painful time of my life, BUT I have turned my life totally over to the care of God. He is faithful, full of grace, mercy, forgiveness and unconditional love. I believe in the saving power of Jesus and in all He accomplished and promises to do for those who accept His very generous gifts.

I still believe in marriage and in the power of God to achieve what we cannot on our own. Obviously it takes both parties to believe this for their marriage and if one shuts the door on His promises, it to say the least is a very sad thing and not pleasing to God. God does not divorce us and we are to be that example to this lost world.

I have 3 children from my first marriage, 3 step-children from my second marriage, 3 grandchildren with 1 on the way. I am very blessed and grateful that God has given me the opportunity to get my spiritual house in order before I die. I am hopeful that I will be able to leave a better legacy then the one I have left in the area of marriage and spiritual maturity.


7 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. The Girl From Out of Town
    Nov 30, 2010 @ 23:07:22

    Dear Pops,
    I am getting alot from reading your love dare musings. As I keep reading, they will help me avoid future trainwrecks and have healthy relationships. Thank you. šŸ™‚
    Girl From Out Of Town


    • popsdumonde
      Dec 01, 2010 @ 00:33:24

      Thank you for reading and for commenting. I’m all for avoiding train wrecks. I’m convinced that if we get out of Gods way and follow the suggestions in the book, we can have a great marriage or relationship. Now, I just need to do it.
      Peace & Blessings, Stan (Pops)


  2. savedbygrace
    Nov 22, 2011 @ 04:41:13

    I understand what you been through
    – I came from a broken family. I have seen violence.
    – my mother had 3 husbands
    – I have 2 step brother and sister, who themselves are steps too.
    – My father had 2 wife
    – I have 2 step siblings

    I have 4 children, we have our ups and downs with my wife. It is the grace of God that we carry on. We have gone to the worst in the relationship – you will be surprised if I tell you.

    but If I can relate to you,

    Jesus knows you better. He keeps account of your hair count. He knows you by name. He’s been in our shoes. He felt what you have felt.

    lovely Lord. lovely Jesus.

    may the Lord fill your emptiness.

    grace and peace to you.


    • popsdumonde
      Nov 23, 2011 @ 00:32:59

      Thank you for sharing. What I’d really like is to hear more from you and others about your struggles and victories through Christ.


      • savedbygrace
        Nov 23, 2011 @ 01:00:07

        @ What Iā€™d really like is to hear more from you and others about your struggles and victories through Christ.

        I never grew up with parents, as they have been separated each with their own families.
        some long years ago, when my mother show up at home, for some reason I almost chop he with a sword. good thing grandpa intervene.

        2 years ago, when I realized How much God loves me,
        My relationship with my mother was restored. the hate I
        have for her, was no longer there. I don’t know how it was gone,
        but I just know who took it away

        My relationship with my wife, grew stronger. more love lavished in
        the family. prior to me and my wife being under grace, we would
        fight each other. Literally. Physically. I don’t wanna go into detail.
        since in our country divorce is not a law, we suck up the relationship.
        by the way, we both profess to be Christians.

        until one day, my wife and I heard the true gospel. the gospel of grace.
        our marriage was transformed. we are more loving like that newly weds.
        it is as if we were both girlfriend and boyfriend.

        the grace of God is love. It will manifest no matter what.

        before I was under grace – few years ago, I had this huge huge credit card bill. when I had the revelation that Jesus paid all our debts (yes, I know it refers to sin debt) I thought, If Jesus paid my ultimate debt – sin – then my credit card bill is nothing compared to him.

        I lost a job and was not able to pay the bill. it racked up.
        to make the long story short. I received a letter from the bank.
        My debt was cancelled! it was as if someone paid for it!

        wow.. thank you for your listening ear. only few actually have the guts to even want to hear testimonies.

        I know I might take your entire space here, so I’ll end here šŸ™‚

        grace and peace to you and your family.

  3. popsdumonde
    Nov 23, 2011 @ 01:17:21

    Please do not hesitate to share thinking you are taking up too much space. It is through the stories of others that I am encouraged, I love hearing how God has worked in the lives of His followers. I appreciate your honesty and courage to share painful life lessons. I will be reading your blog and hope to hear more from you as well.

    May God’s blessings and grace continue to wash over you and your family. Praise God for the saving and cleansing blood of Jesus!


  4. Noelene
    Feb 26, 2015 @ 13:00:10

    Thank you for liking my post. Although you don’t seem to have blogged since June last year I just wanted to say that I agree with you that God can and does restore marriages in the most miraculous way but it takes both the husband and wife to be committed to saving the marriage.
    Our children know that one of the biggest miracles they will ever witness in their lives is their father and my marriage!!
    I pray that you will continue to know God’s guidance in your life.


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